The holidays should be a time when you and your teenager grow a little closer together.  It’s not a time for battles or fighting or trying to get them to do exactly what you want.  This holiday season be flexible with your teenagers.  Talk to them about what they want to do and negotiate generous terms where you also get some of what you want.  Make them a part of the process and let them have some limited control over their participation in family events.  Teenagers often push against disciplinary walls that parents put up.  Loosen the ramparts a little extra but still insist that your teenager be safe.